Why You Need to Stop Comparing Yourself With Others
The worst thing you can do to yourself if you have low self-esteem or insecurity is to compare yourself to other people.
Many of us have low self-esteem because of the constant comparisons we make to others.
Most detrimental to our self-assurance is our mental image of how we should be.
We tend to lose sight of the fact that we cannot be anyone but ourselves and that it is only through being ourselves that we can achieve our goals.
It’s not good to compare yourself with others, but you sometimes need comparisons of two words or phrases; isn’t it ironic?
There are ten things you can do to get back on track.
1. Recognize That You Can Take Your Choose
It’s impossible to embrace or recognize the options you actually have when you compare yourself to others.
But if you narrow your focus to those possibilities, you’ll be able to zero in on the one that suits you best.
If you always think about yourself, your abilities, and your own goals, you will never veer off course.
2. Don’t Stop Making Progress
Instead of gauging your success by how you stack up against others, consider how far you’ve come over the past month, quarter, or year.
If, on the other hand, you find that you are making no headway in the direction of your objectives, it is likely because you have not adequately stated your goals.
It has nothing to do with anyone else, and it has nothing to do with something wrong or inferior with you.
Track your own development and hold yourself responsible only for that.
3. Think About What You Can and Can’t Do
The worst thing you can do when evaluating yourself against others is to put your faith in your own limitations.
People spend a lot of time dwelling on their shortcomings and wishing they were better at things.
Know your limits, but don’t let them hold you back.
Learn the rules so you can break them. If you want to succeed, you have to learn to play by your own set of rules sometimes.
4. Recognize and Appreciate Your Individuality
The unique qualities that make you who you are are lost in a sea of comparisons.
Tell me about your talents. In what ways are you unique? Find your own unique way to contribute to the world; that is your life’s work.
Everything you provide to the world, from your skills and abilities to your achievements and the value you add, is special and unique to you.
That’s why it’s impossible to find an accurate benchmark against which to judge your own worth.
5. Take Advice from More Seasoned Individuals
There’s an easy fix if you realize how much you don’t know causes stress.
Improve your skills by taking lessons from others who already possess them.
Please don’t compare yourself to others’ achievements; use them to motivate you.
6. Keep Your Time Safe
Each of us has 86,400 seconds in a day.
And it would be a terrible waste of even a single one of those seconds to waste them on petty comparisons of who you are or what you’ve accomplished compared to someone else.
7. Take Some Time to Revel In Your Achievements
Acknowledge your successes, and then set new, even loftier goals.
Do this every time you achieve a goal, and you’ll have no time to dwell on your shortcomings compared to others.
8. Change the One Thing You Can: Yourself
So much of life is unpredictable, but there is one thing we can count on: comparing ourselves to others is a fruitless endeavor that diverts our attention away from our own lives and onto someone else’s.
9. Negativity Is Bred By Comparisons
Self-inflicted wounds hurt more. Thus, it’s essential to avoid comparisons between yourself and others.
10. To Help Others, You Must First Help Yourself
If you want others to notice your work, you must first recognize the worth of others’ efforts.
Supporting the success of others will lead to your own.
Whatever you do, it will come back to you.
The only person you should measure your progress against is yourself.